Positive and Negative

Positive and Negative


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Positive: Think about a solution


Negative: Think about the problem


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Positive: Endless Ideas

Negative: Endless Excuses

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Positive: Helps Others

Negative: Helped by Others



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Positive: Sees a Solution for each problem

Negative: Sees a Problem for each Solution



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Positive: Solution Hard but possible

Negative: Solution Possible but Hard



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Positive:Achievement is an accountability



Negative: Achievement is a Promise


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Positive: Has Dreams He Needs to Fulfill


Negative: Has Disillusions He Needs to Get Rid of.

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Positive: Treat others as you want to be treated



Negative: Fool others before they fool you


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Positive: Sees Gain in Work


Negative: Sees Pain in Work


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Positive: Sees the Possible in the Future


Negative: Sees the Impossible in the Future.



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Positive: Selects what to Say

Negative: Says what he Selects

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Positive: Strong Discussion with Soft Language

Negative: Soft Discussion with Strong Language

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Positive: Holds on Values and Forgoes Casual Issues

Negative: Holds on Casual Issues and Forgoes Values

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Positive: Makes Events

Negative: Made by Events

How to Build Self Confidence

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You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if you're starting with little or no confidence?
How do you get from Point A to Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.



The Steps



Recognize your insecurities. What does in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, to emotional abuse (past or present) from a loved one or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.


Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.


Remember that nobody is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.


Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.


Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.


Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.


Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.


Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel.


Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!


Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.

WHY DO WE SLEEP?

WHY DO WE SLEEP?
Some scientists consider that sleep is an instinct, a basic need for the body and mind to relax and to escape from responses needed while awake. We become tired in body and mind if we do not sleep, and scientists have proved that when we do sleep the electrical activity of the brain slows down, although it may be stimulated when we dream. One chemical theory is that a substance needed to maintain the waking state becomes exhausted and may be replenished in sleep. A contrary suggestion is that some poisonous substances built up in wakefulness may be destroyed when we go to sleep. Other theories connect the need for increased wakefulness with the development of the more sophisticated areas of the brain. This could explain why new-born babes whose powers of reasoning have not yet developed, spend most of their lives asleep. It has been demonstrated that a particular part of the brain, the reticular formation, if severed, causes continuous sleep. Although we are not sure why we sleep, there is no doubt that we need to do so and so do most other animals. The pattern of sleep and wakefulness is closely connected with our habits and senses. Animals which depend upon sight for food, shelter and defence, like man, are diurnal. That means they are for the most part active during the day and asleep at night. The amount of sleep needed by a person to remain in full health varies considerably with age, with different individuals, and even, perhaps, with race. Pre-school children generally need ten to twelve hours sleep, schoolchildren nine to eleven hours and adults seven to nine hours. Adults seem to need progressively less sleep as they grow older, and exceptional cases are known of elderly people who have remained healthy on two to three hours a night. It has been said that the Japanese, both children and adults, sleep lees than Europeans, but that may be due to habit rather that to race.

salty coffeel

He met her on a party, she was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her,while he was so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised, but due to politeness, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, she thought, please, let me back home. Suddenly he asked the waiter: would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.

Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red, but, still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously: why you have this hobby? He replied: when I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could felt the taste of the sea, salty and bite, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I will think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who still living there. Saying that, tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart.

"A man who can tell out his homesick, he must be a man loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home," she thought. Then she also started to talk, talked about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continue to date. She found actually he was a man who meets all her demands: he was tolerance, kind hearted, warm, careful...he was such a good guy but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!

Then the story was just like every beautiful love story: the princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life...And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked.

After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said: "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you, the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It's hard for me to change so I just go ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything..Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth: I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste..but I have the salty coffee for my whole life since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life.

If I can live for the second time, I still want to know you and have you as my whole life wife, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again."

Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her: What's the taste of salty coffee?

It's sweet. She replied.

Types of Women

Types of Women



HARD-DISK Woman:

She remembers everything, FOREVER.


RAM Woman:

She forgets about you, the moment you turn her off.



WINDOWS Woman:

Everyone knows that she can't do a thing right, but no one can live without her.



EXCEL Woman:

They say she can do a lot of things but you mostly use her for your four basic needs.

SCREENSAVER Woman:

She is good for nothing but at least she is fun!

INTERNET Woman:

Difficult to access.



SERVER Woman:

Always busy when you need her.

MULTIMEDIA Woman:

She makes horrible things look beautiful.

CD-ROM Woman:

She is always faster and faster.

E-MAIL Woman:

Every ten things she says, eight are nonsense.


VIRUS Woman:

Also known as "WIFE"; when you are not expecting her, she comes, installs herself and uses all your resources. If you try to uninstall her you will lose something, if you don't try to uninstall her you will lose everything

Kindness

Hello

Are you kind ? Do you like to be kind ? What did you do for kind in Ramadan ?

If all these questions are belong to NOs

So hear from Adam , What you should follow ?

Islam is the kindness itself , do you believe that it is true to call yourself as a Muslim

and yet you are not kind

My precious reader who lacks kindness self-esteem

Let kindness freely flow from you and

it will surely change your world

Kindness is one of the most powerful tools available to you

Kindness can positively transform your world in a way

that nothing else can

When your heart is filled with kindness, your thoughts

and actions are driven by a positive, creative force

Instead of being needlessly distracted by anger, envy or despair

your eyes are more fully open to the many valuable possibilities

Act with kindness towards others

Allah asked us to be kindness to each other , not only Islam

most of the most religious ask the same kindness

wont have that kindness heart from this moment on

stand up and kiss ur mother hands

and for the girls , stand up and go to the kitchen

and bake cake for your family

no matter if your action is small or big , it doesn't matter

as long as it refers to kindness

You'll create an atmosphere of understanding and cooperation

in which amazing things can be accomplished

Be kind to yourself , and for me too by too much replies , ha ha ha

You'll make it possible to clearly focus your considerable

creative energy on achieving

the highest and best of your dreams

Choose to act with kindness, and you free yourself

from the heavy burden of negativity

Persist in your kindness, and you rise to higher

and higher levels of true, meaningful accomplishment

Now

Did you do a little act of kindness today?

Thank you

A Real Friend & A Simple Friend

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself
and doesn't feel even the least bit weird shutting your
'cola/Pepsi drawer' with her foot!


A simple friend,  has never seen you cry.A real frien shoulder is soggy from your tears..

A simple friend,  doesn't know your parents' first
names.A real frien has their phone numbers
in his address book.

A simple friend, brings a box of chocolate to your
party.A real frien comes early to help you cook and
stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend,  hates it when you call after
they've gone to bed.A real frien asks you why you took so long to
call.


A simple friend, seeks to talk with you about your
problems.A real frien seeks to help you with your problems.


A simple friend,  wonders about your romantic
history.A real frien could blackmail you with it!


A simple friend,  thinks the friendship is over when
you have an argument.A real friencalls you after you had a fight.


A simple friend,  expects you to always be there for
them.A real frien expects to always be there for you!


A simple friend, reads these words and deletes them.
A real frien passes them on and sends them to someone who is a real friend too